First things first – TGIF! It’s been a long week (then again, when isn’t it a long week?) and I am SO ready for the weekend. I’ve already got some fun plans – sushi and drinks with friends, a short shift at my part-time job on Saturday, and plans-free Sunday. I’m hoping to put a dent in my Christmas shopping, which I am still not ready to do! (Side note: remember when ABC used to have TGIF with Two of a Kind, Boy Meets World, Sabrina the Teenage Witch? I miss it… Thank goodness for early-morning BMW reruns and the spinoff that’s in the works!)
Now, about setbacks…
It can – and does – happen to anyone working toward a goal as a matter of course. Students fail tests, athletes get injured, dieters “splurge.”
These so-called setbacks, however, are the moments when we learn most about ourselves.
We ask ourselves questions: Why did this happen? What triggered my loss of control? What will I do differently to ensure this doesn’t happen again?
Goal achievers are those who ask themselves these questions, assess their answers, and own their circumstances. They latch onto the lessons they can take away from making a mistake and move on. They don’t let a flub generate enough self-doubt to deter them from their goals.
Moral of the story: A “setback” is only a setback if you don’t learn from it. A “mistake” is only as big as your mind allows it to become.
I experienced a setback of my own this week, and failed to achieve a goal in a major way. So, what am I going to do about it?
- I’m going to write myself a letter and read it aloud. Journaling isn’t enough – I think I need to hear a lesson/reality check out loud in order to take it to heart. Plus, self-talk is always a good thing, provided it’s not negative.
- I’m going to seek help and support. Whether I will seek support online, from my family, from a counselor, or all of the above, I am not sure. One thing is for sure, though – we are not put on this earth to exist in isolation. I have been blessed with family, friends, and resources for love and support.
- I’m going to choose to move on. I’ll remind myself that every day is a new day; every moment is the chance to choose happiness, to live in the present, to not dwell on past mistakes. I’ll remind myself that it’s never too late to start over.
What was the last setback you overcame? How did you do it?