TGIF & On Setbacks

First things first – TGIF! It’s been a long week (then again, when isn’t it a long week?) and I am SO ready for the weekend. I’ve already got some fun plans – sushi and drinks with friends, a short shift at my part-time job on Saturday, and plans-free Sunday. I’m hoping to put a dent in my Christmas shopping, which I am still not ready to do! (Side note: remember when ABC used to have TGIF with Two of a Kind, Boy Meets World, Sabrina the Teenage Witch? I miss it… Thank goodness for early-morning BMW reruns and the spinoff that’s in the works!)

Now, about setbacks…

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It can – and does – happen to anyone working toward a goal as a matter of course. Students fail tests, athletes get injured, dieters “splurge.”

These so-called setbacks, however, are the moments when we learn most about ourselves.

We ask ourselves questions: Why did this happen? What triggered my loss of control? What will I do differently to ensure this doesn’t happen again?

Goal achievers are those who ask themselves these questions, assess their answers, and own their circumstances. They latch onto the lessons they can take away from making a mistake and move on. They don’t let a flub generate enough self-doubt to deter them from their goals.

Moral of the story: A “setback” is only a setback if you don’t learn from it. A “mistake” is only as big as your mind allows it to become.

I experienced a setback of my own this week, and failed to achieve a goal in a major way. So, what am I going to do about it?

  • I’m going to write myself a letter and read it aloud. Journaling isn’t enough – I think I need to hear a lesson/reality check out loud in order to take it to heart. Plus, self-talk is always a good thing, provided it’s not negative.
  • I’m going to seek help and support. Whether I will seek support online, from my family, from a counselor, or all of the above, I am not sure. One thing is for sure, though – we are not put on this earth to exist in isolation. I have been blessed with family, friends, and resources for love and support.
  • I’m going to choose to move on. I’ll remind myself that every day is a new day; every moment is the chance to choose happiness, to live in the present, to not dwell on past mistakes. I’ll remind myself that it’s never too late to start over.

What was the last setback you overcame? How did you do it?

Thoughts on the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show

I can’t lie, I am a HUGE fan of the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show. It’s unlike any other fashion show I’ve seen – it’s so much FUN! Fun fashion (love those wings!), fun models, and fun performers. I am SO looking forward to this year’s artists: Rihanna, Bruno Mars, and Justin Bieber. (Yes, I love Justin Bieber. No shame. That little nugget is talented!)

On the other hand, it is a showcase of the high standards our society has for the female figure and the extreme measures that some of the models take in order to look “runway-ready.” Adriana Lima came under fire last year for her pre-VS Show diet and fitness routine, which consists of two-a-day workouts, no solid food for nine days leading up to the show, and no liquids for the last 12 hours before the show. She subsequently defended her routine by saying her heavy workouts and diet aren’t things she does regularly or long-term.

This year, Candice Swanepoel Instagramed this photo:

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According to People Magazine, comments on the pic ranged from “appreciative to concerned.” Personally, I’m more concerned on the concerned side. Granted, it is Ms. Swanepoel’s body and hers to share with the world (as she has chosen to do), but one has to wonder about what kind of standards she holds for her body and where she’s getting them from.

I hope that everyone watching the show – women of all ages and men alike – keep in mind that these are models, and that their bodies are not necessarily representative of the female population, nor are they realistic for most of us. Beyond that, the extreme measures that (nearly) all models – fashion, fitness, etc. – are not sustainable, or even healthy.

In all honesty, I sometimes struggle to grasp this idea. While I realize that what we see in photos and on TV is edited, photoshopped, and otherwise not representative of reality, I do think about how much better I’d look if I didn’t have love handles, if the skin on my elbows wasn’t so wrinkly, if my tummy didn’t have that little pooch… The list goes on and on.

Then I return to what I was talking about on Sunday night: that I am enough.

I remember that I should be the one dictating the standards I hold for my body, not social pressure. I love this image from Nike, which has helped me remember to love my body for what it can do, instead of tearing it down for not conforming to an unrealistic standard.

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Now it’s your turn…

Will you be tuning into the VS Fashion show tonight?

How do you feel about the standards our society has for the female (or male!) body?

Still Not Ready

Can you believe it’s already DECEMBER FIRST?! Yeah, neither can I. Time has been flying by lately… Seems like Halloween was just yesterday! I’m not ready for it all – Christmas music, Christmas shopping, Christmas anything… Maybe once we get some snow I’ll come around. Regardless, this happened:

 

Christmas treeNow, to recap yesterday…

EATS:

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Sprouted grain toast with Greek yogurt sweetened with 2 packets of Splenda, enjoyed with an Americano. Breakfast of champions.

Pre-Lunch: 1 p.m. or so

ImageMassive kale salad topped with carrots, nutritional yeast, sunflower seeds, Craisins, “croutons” made from toasted sprouted grain bread. YUM! So filling. Enjoyed at my desk while distracted and working.

Lunch: 2:30 p.m.

ImageDoesn’t look too appetizing, but I promise it’s delicious! Sprouted cinnamon raisin bread with raisins, covered with sliced banana and peanut fluff. Enjoyed while working. (Seems to be a pattern…)

Workout: 4:30-6 p.m. (or so)

Put in a solid hour on an elliptical with an adjustable incline and resistance. Warmed up for 5 minutes, then I did sprint intervals during the chorus of every song that played. A friend joined me there for the last 20 minutes, which helped the time go faster. The two of us then topped it off with 30 minutes on the “moon bounce” elliptical to spend some more time together and for me to attempt to blunt the caloric damage done the day before. Did some vanity lifting, as well, to make myself feel better about wearing a short-sleeved dress. It felt GREAT to sweat it out, and the 90 minutes flew by! The lifting was pretty pointless, though. Quality strength training has been lacking lately. Might incorporate a strength circuit in my workout this afternoon. Julie always has such great ideas for strength and cardio circuits… I might have to borrow one of her workouts!

Dinner: 8ish p.m.

Made one of Tina’s two-ingredient pancakes with extra egg whites, cinnamon, and a bit of vanilla extract in the mix, and topped it with peanut fluff and copious amounts of sugar-free maple syrup. Enjoyed with lots of water in front of the TV while talking to my mom.

 

After dinner, I met up with a friend at her house before we headed out to one of my/our favorite local places for a glass of wine. 6 glasses of wine and a (safe, I promise you) drive home later, pretzels covered with peanut fluff, Golden Grahams, and chocolate chips sounded like a great idea. 😦 Obviously, they were not. I was up eating until 5 a.m., and woke up to this:

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Not.cool. Last time I weighed myself (a month ago), I weighed in at 151. This is disappointing, to say the least.

It’s making me wonder whether I’m ready to begin this revolution… But I’m telling myself that it’s a new month, new day, and a new chance to make progress. 🙂

In that spirit, here’s today’s brunch, which took place from 11:30-12:25, while typing this post:ImagePile of kale leaves topped with a salad my mom threw together (iceberg lettuce, tomatoes, carrots, red cabbage, and bacon bits that I tried to get out of there since I’m a freak and don’t care for bacon), 1T sunflower seeds, 3T of nutritional yeast, lots of fat free Italian dressing, and an egg with some extra whites that I cooked in a mug in the microwave. Who knew I was only 1 minute away from a delicious cooked egg this whole time? It was DELICIOUS. Enjoyed while typing this (super-long) blog post with a reheated Americano left over from yesterday. Also had a cup of grapes while trying to figure out what to eat. I was still full from my late-night pretzel/cereal/peanut fluff/chocolate chips binge. Not a great feeling.

Looking at my recap of yesterday (and this morning!), I’m often eating while working or otherwise distracted. New goal: to eat one meal a day without any distractions. Hopefully some mindfulness will lead me to me make better choices late at night! I’ll keep you posted on my progress. 🙂

Off to run errands to a few of my favorite stores before I go into work! Hopefully I’ll be checking in later with a workout summary and recap of the day.

Have a great Saturday, folks!

On the (band)wagon

I’ve decided to hop on the bandwagon and start my own blog. I’m hoping to document my progress toward living healthier and happier. Plus, it’s sort of cool to document one’s life in a way that’s not as in-your-face as Facebook or as impersonal as Twitter.

As of today, I’m considering myself back “on the wagon,” and will be pushing full steam ahead toward living healthier – i.e. monitoring my eating habits, putting in quality workouts, and getting plenty of sleep. I feel like I’ve been falling off the wagon after making great progress in October. I was sleeping more, was more mindful of my food intake, and had a lot of great workouts. I’d like to get back into that groove, and I’m hoping that writing it all down here for everyone (okay, not everyone – but the few people who will stop by the blog) to see will keep me more accountable.

Truth be told, I’m looking to lose some weight/fat. I lost 9ish pounds last month, but have probably gained that back due to poor diet choices and a few missed workouts. Side note: I do NOT recommend the “see food” diet. 😉 My clothes aren’t fitting the way I’d like, and I’m not about to go out and buy any new ones until I’m feeling more comfortable in my skin. Plus, I miss my flat belly, the definition in my arms, and lack of guilt when I wake up in the morning. I’m hoping that by journaling my days I’ll be able to identify patterns and help me work toward better choices.

Off to get the day started for real! Got one of these waiting for me…

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Sugar-free French Vanilla Americano FTW. Planning on washing it down with a bunch of water and some breakfast.

See you this afternoon!